Last night we’re sitting around the table playing Battleship, our two little guys are with us—the three year old doesn’t get it at all—and our seven year old, he’s catching on.

He’s just starting to get the strategy of how you can really try to sink someone’s battleship.

And so we’re calling out these numbers, and trying to say, “Hey, you look at it up here on the radar and then you look down here below for your own.”

Reading the radar is a complex skill for him.

And it’s complex for all of us even in our relationships.

To kind of intuitively begin to read the radar of our spouse and move in the direction that they need—that is a skill.

Friend, it has to do with listening to the words underneath the message. Tune in to your spouse’s radar.

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